FULL MOON Circle

In the spirit of recycling and sustainability I am showing my older Full Moon circle videos. These videos only talk about the basic planetary affects and not the confidential readings.

Because thereis much content available on the net I want to allow those who support my work access to some content that would otherwise be buried in the ether.  Thereforeevery month I will post basic information for you.

If you wish to be part of the circle which allows you to have full access to the Moon circle rituals and readings then please join our circle below.

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People Pleasing Over achieving

Sometimes finding the right way to start a blog post is like splitting hairs, I have to be motivated to start the topic otherwise being in my head just makes me freeze like a Deer in headlights.  My anxiety and top dog wants to make me stop because the topic is just not 'smart ' enough.  So, I must wait until my heart is ready to stand in its courage and speak its truth and my truth is;

I am a chronic people pleaser and over achiever

I am also very creative with a 1000 ideas per hour moving through me,  I am also good at monetizing those ideas to make them work for me.

After reading this article I realise how it was important to admit, feel and let go of the need to justify why I had so many streams of income (my embarrassment was linked to people judging me for 'being different)..  

Trying to please others and over achievingis like having an addiction because we are never able to satisfy that craving it will always be the next goal to achieve and the next person to please.   I am have a distinction between my creative energy and overachieving people pleasing.

My creative drive is through an inner guidance that sometimes does not make sense, something I felt when I created the paintings for the 2017 Calender.

My people pleasing is from the need to be praised or an idea suggested by others. 

When I first moved into my studio I felt so small like a fraud as I ignored that voice that said "don't worry you will soon fill this up" and within months I created most of the images for my calendar.  But at the time I was doubting who I was and why did I need to have this studio, because the desire to have the studio was my longing not from others suggesting I have it, I pleased my (inner) self.  .

You don’t know what level is your comfort zone until you are challenged, and one of those challenges are to stop pleasing others and start pleasing yourself.

Suggestion: Chose 5 major choicesyou made in your life and write down the reasons behind the choice and who influenced you.

Post your answers in the comments below.

Marilyn x

Mental Health Awareness Day

Today is Mental Health Awareness day and according to World Health Organisation depression will be the leading illness globally by 2030. if we do not act to combat this disease.

In the UK we have 615 million people suffering from Anxiety and Depression and 1 in 4 people will experience one diagnose Mental health condition, statistics that are higher in Ethnic minorities.

So If we live in a society that caters to our every need why is it that Mental health especially in Young people and those from ethnic backgrounds are on the rise?

Well most answers point to our lifestyle, the breakdown of communities, debt, the breakdown of families, racism, sexism thatall contribute to our mental and emotional distress.

I have candidly explained my own struggle with anxiety as a young woman here

Every year there is a theme for Mental health awareness day and this year the theme is Psychological First aid, and the support people can provide to those in distress.

The World Health organisation has listed tips and ways to support and donate to this cause on their website

I have listed 5 tips on how to cope with Panic attacks and anxiety.

1.  Anxiety and Panic Attacks are normally about an underlying problem so the first step is finding a counsellor or therapist (through your GP or support group) that will help you work through any issues.

2. Exercise or yoga classes will help Anxiety and if your mind is racing then Astanga or Power Yoga will help you because of the active style will encourage you to focus on the postures that will occupy an anxious mind..

3. Complimentary therapies were invaluable to me and my clients when I worked as an Aromatherapist/Healer.  Oils that help Anxiety and depression such as Frankincense will encourages deeper breathing which is hell to somebody hyperventilating due to Anxiety.  

Frankincense - Great for relaxing and slowing your breath and calming the mind.

Geranium - Good for balancing and uplifting your mind.

Bergamot - One of the best oils for Depression (please be careful of sunlight).

Rose essential Oil -  A workshop participant who had severe depression used pure Rose essential oil and found this lifted the depression, excellent for grief also.

4.  The practice of mindfulness ; Being in the present can help, I use my art to help with anxiety or meditation.  Art journallingor working with colouring books can help.

5 The practice of gratitude - Listing small accomplishments of your day, week or life is said to help and improve your mental health.

We also have essential oil sets available in our store or join one of our workshops or courses.

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On copying .....

Nothing is new - I often childishly get mad at those that I percieve to copy me .. maybe it is due to being the last child and every ground had been covered apart from my own creative mind. Maybe my anger at copying is because I belong to a culture or race that is often plagerized witout financial reward. Whatever the reason it is time for me to let it go stop it ! Everything comes from source and we are all inspired. I do not condone blatant copying but I understand that it either comes from two places;
LACK or INSPIRATION and Pioneers often know how to utilize the latter. #Pioneer #creative #copycats #mirrors #blackmoonmusing #mjfontaine #innerchild #calendar2017 #thirdeyeweek #balancingchakrasusingartandaromatherapy

Quote of the week- Building a Legacy.

On Maintaining creative energy (my Juju ain't for sale).

On being fearlessly courageous (part 2)

“ juju- jungle speak for magic, or good luck! “- Urban dictionary”

The above definition is totally incorrect by the way.
When I talk of magic I am referring to surrender something bigger than myself a trust in the power of the Creator.  

Magic to me is the dialogue between myself and the universe when I acknowledge and appreciate the unique gifts bestowed upon me in this life.

The highs and lows of my life weave together like a powerfully woven tapestry crafted by my ancestors themselves, each thread has a prayer or blessing bestowed to me and reminding me of my purpose here on eARTh.

When we are truly in alignment, brave and have a child like approach to our life we invite more magic and serendipity, some would say we live a charmed life.  I would say a trusted life.

Feeders/ Psychic Vampires
Because of the 'Charmed life' - the energy emitted can be addictive and attract a lot of people who need to capitalize on this energy without giving back these type I call 'Feeders'.  They can be a Corporation, Race, Friend or even Foe (wearing the guise of a friend).
 
Feeders normally feel or have very little sustainable or authentic energy of their own and in some cases this is true.  I find that feeders come into my life when I am thriving in my creativity.   Passion is intense and it can make your Juju look easy so to keep the work or trend alive the feeder needs continuous contact with you and this is where they often start violating boundaries.

The key is the catch this dynamic in the conception stage. otherwise burnout will follow.  I have recently experienced a Feeder coming into my life and trying to overstep some boundaries.  I have now reset the boundary line and my creative and personal space.

In terms intellectual property and feeders i.e. corporations strongly advise creatives see the value in your work if somebody is interested in your work then they see the return they can make from you.  Do not allow an external source that has no respect for you as a person or race to determine the value of your product.  Lastly Feeders will always take your creative ideas and claim it as their own.

I am learning the art of containment and I am creating a ring around my energy and my work because my Juju is mine and not for sale.

If you want to maintain personal boundaries or are suffering burnout then try our self care bundle packages

Marilyn

Summer Solstice and Full Moon

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On 20th June 2016is the Summer Solstice and a Full Moon.  This time is when the Moon goddess meets the Sun King. 

The Solstice will be one of the most auspicious times of the year because not only will the Moon and Sun be at a powerful place, but we also have had the passing of the Greatest Muhammed Ali and Master Prince, so the heavens will be chucking back that genius creative spirit into the ether.

So for this Full Moon I am offering a special Bundle package that consists of;

A Meditation, A Goal setting page and a Solstice Goddess reading.

Not to be missed, the Solstice will be a very special and powerful time for us to align our consciousness with our ordained gifts so it is not a time to waste .

If you have one or two then charge up your Yoni eggs, do a mini smoothie detox (check out our pinterest 30/30 board)  and plan your goals for the next six months till the Winter solstice.  For the moon circle/ 30/30 wellness members who completed the Winter Solstice meet up with me on December 21st it is time to review the goals that you set.

You will receive your bundle by Friday 17th June and access to our private learning portal where your video, mp3 and pdf will be uploaded.

You can download all materials and use them for the future.

This bundle is for both Women and Men.

Buy now and align yourself for the next six months or just listen to the meditation and chill.

When I realised I was fearless

(I was fronting)

(On being fearlessly courageous (part 1)

This past weekend I participated in Open artist studios in South London and I was fronting!

I thought I was ok until I spoke with a fellow artist (who at the age of 60 decided to take up painting), I realised that I was terrified of how the visitors would respond to my work.

I have had my first solo show back in March, however this was from the requests of people who I knew admired my work, and not complete strangers.  I realised I cover up my fears with being busy and I hardly acknowledge that little girl inside, who is often very fearful and vulnerable. 
 
So as it was a New Moon and I am letting go, I decided to drop the mask and I let my vulnerable self and my work be seen to the public.  Being vulnerable is something that was not really celebrated in my childhood home; vulnerability and mistakes ( for various reasons mainly due to time, money and culture) so I just got on with it.  This weekend I gave myself permission to be this way and I allowed myself to receive feedback about my work as long as it was constructive. 

The weekend was filled with a lot of love and appreciation for my work.  However the real shift was thatI did it! I became fearless through my own self-awareness, care and vulnerability.
 
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Marilyn x

Why you count ! Unveiling your muse.

Every so often I come across a women who used to turn heads, who had a bounce in her step, who lit up a room,  now she appears almost translucent and inconspicuous, she doesn't even notice herself when she passes a mirror,

One day this women begins to take up a practice, she starts to have her own rituals, she starts to do simple exercises she pushes through the challenges and finds herself again.   Only she is more powerful than before because through this transformation she is able to create with a fearlessness and authenticity.. She is reborn...she is...Freeda, she is Eartha .she is Frida Khalo, she is me.

Life and responsibility has taken a hold of many of us,  that we have forgotten ourselves, we    rescue others and abandon ourselves, burnout and tired we compensate for our loss by covering up and protecting ourselves with food, items etc.   We use the excuse that we are getting older and this is how it is but unfortunately our fire and inner rage becomes louder turning into depression,   We have to keep investing in ourselves until we leave this planet otherwise we will fade into the background.  

So now I am offering a bundle of resources that will help you find your own passionate, sexual, creative essence or your 'bounce' with my selfcare bundle packages.  Sign up before 6th June to get the early bird discounts.

These packages are for Therapists, healers, mums on the go, women who are going through the change, business owners, everybody who need to get their inner goddess out, so if you are interested !!!

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Prince Rogers Nelson and the 'Currency' deception.

On April 21 2016 we lost another great Pioneer and Supernova the Artist Prince.

It has taken me weeks to write this blog as I digested the news of his death.  Looking at the catalogue of Prince'swork is a never ending process, and reading about his Philanthropic endeavors are astounding.

However one of the most important messages that Prince's life and death represented (apart from damn good music ) was that we cannot compromise ourselvestoo much with our creativity and how we put it out in the world.  We are sold a story that success is attained through social media popularity, or belonging to a specific company/label/agency/establishment much to the detriment of our soul and livelihood.

I have conversations daily with people young and old who are trying to '"make it " struggling to be discovered in a complicated paradoxical social media dominated environment.   Success is now based upon reaching 15k fans and selling pee-packaged,reconstructed material that has no real longevity.  We no longer fight against a system that kills authentic expression,  because we are tired,  passive andconditioned due to 'Burnout' and the Age myth.  The most precious currency we can attain as human beings is from the energy we maintain and use to produce a product or a service that is authentic and unique to us. True currency is about our creative and authentic expression, and Prince Rogers Nelson left Earth as a very rich soul who lived out his design in the most uncompromising fashion.  Prince created a currency so vast and full that his mere existence will affect us for years to come energetically, creatively and in terms of ownership of product.     Prince Rogers Nelson's existence on this planet has taught us how to kick arse and do 'your way' which is   another alternative to just existing.

How do you plan to move forward with your gifts? Leave a comment below.  Let us start a revolution!

RIP

Healing Art : The Phoenix

Acrylic on hardboard.

I wasn't going to show this #workinprogress but as it is a full moon I wanted to share.  The face has changed since I took this photograph.  This paintingis influenced by the Nibiru story and this is the phoenix    " According to the Greek historian Herodotus (b: 484 BC), the phoenix was a mythical bird from Ethiopia. It was spectacularly large, beautiful and adorned with mind-blowing plumage. The historian also reported that the phoenix made a nest cypress branches. Rather preparing to lay eggs, the phoenix was preparing to die. While sitting in the nest, the bird created a great deal of heat, and set itself on fire from its own heat with the cypress serving as kindling. After three days, the phoenix emerged from its own ashes - reborn and released from the sentence of death, able to live on forever" source what is your sign

I am nowcreating a package for those suffering with Creative or physical burnout and this painting comes at a time when rebirth is needed for those who have given a lot and need rejuvenation it is now time.

Self Care for Therapists

I remember my first encounter with Burnout I was working as a Beauty and Holistic Therapist at Bliss Clinic in Portobello Road in early 2001; After four years practicing I had to give up bodywork for a long time due to a lack of self-care. I had a good number of regular clients but I could no longer physically work at the level I was used too. I believe my need for external validation of making others feel better was the driving force of allowing my own resources to become dry.

Eventually I moved into Coaching and Training others to become Therapists which again led me to Burnout.  So in 2012 I retired from over-giving and I changed my way of working.

During this time my mentor/therapist would remind me that I have been a classic rescuer so over giving is in my nature.

Over giving is often in the nature of Healers, Artists, Therapists and can be linked to the Karpman Drama triangle ‘PVR’ triangle, where one becomes the Rescuer and gives tirelessly and eventually collapses with exhaustion or become either a victim or persecutor (see video).

“Work is Love made Visible” – Kahlil Gibran

We love our work but there needs to be some exchange because as a Creative Healer our work is our life, but we need to be able to tap into other sources so we can work better.

I like to use the percentage model with my clients; How much percentage does your work take? for example if it is 50% what are the percentages for other areas in your life? for a Healer therapist I believe rest should be very high on your list unless you have a specific project.  This model comes from a more complex model used by the Aztec healers explained by the now departed Healer Elena Avila in her book Women who Glows in the Dark. The Author explains the Aztec model for Healers in more detail.
It is really important for you to have a plan or an ethos for living as a pioneer because anything less would be detrimental to your growth.

Six ways to bring balance and self-care into your life.
1 Community (Partner /Friends/ Family)
2 Rest and Relaxation
3 Exercise
4 Going out in nature
5 Mediation, Prayer, Gratitude, Creativity
6 Healthy Food

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Just Enough Demon

Angels and Devils by mjfontaine: Postcard and Print

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.”

— Maya Angelou

What is your 'Just enough or DoubtDemon?

Happy New Year (Moon) As I reflect on the New Moon I just wanted to talk about the manifestation process and the things that stop us from reaching our goals.  Most of our obstacles come from the mind, which are the thoughts that say " you can't do it " or "you haven't got the energy to do it “This negative self-talks takes us of our axis and we forget above our 'marker' which is our 'measure' in the SMART target system.  An example of my marker would be that I am in the process of creating a twelve-week online programme for women,  however this morning I had a huge crises of confidence as to whether I could do this due to the time I needed to create my art vs the time I had to dedicate to do this programme(you want transparency right?) but my positive wise guide inside me reminded me that I just completed my first SOLO exhibition and believe me if I could do that then anybody could.

I doubted myself I would be able to do this

“Some of us were not schooled in success so we spend our adult lives coping with our small successes and blocking out the big ones”

— mjfontaine

A week before my show I came face to face with the Doubt Demon who is really strong when I have a major change in my life.  So I told myself you can do this and then I realised that was also stopping me going to the next level in my life, at times because of my Demon andI am unable to cope with the mass volume of interest not because I am incapable,  but because of my doubts, the demon comes alive.

So in the past my mind would only manifest just enough, clients, sales, etc for me to get by to support my fears or accommodate my limiting beliefs.

So with this realisation I realize that I don't need to listen to the doubt demon.   Sothe question that I want to ask you is for this New Moon is how are you accommodating the 'Just enough of or Doubt Demon.

Please leave your comments below what area of your life is affected.

Marilyn x

Legacy - A Solo Exhibition by Mjfontaine

My First Solo Exhibition Legacy was a great success, due to the professional support of Earth Tone Arts who curated the event. 

Originals and prints were available on the night alongside dream catchers and postcards. I am feeling truly blessed and humble for all those who were moved by my work.  Here are some pictures on the night.

Marilyn x

Why International Women's Day is important to me.

International Women's Day (March 8) is a global day celebrating the social, economic, cultural and political achievements of women. The day also marks a call to action for accelerating gender parity http://www.internationalwomensday.com

International Women's Day came into my life after a voluntary stint at a Women's Centre in Stratford.  The Women's Health centre provided affordable; Complementary therapies, Parent craft, A women's library and a sexual health clinic.  The Women's health centre was ahead of its time during the late 90's a early 2000's and our role as the committee was to ensure that the centre was able to be run in the most efficient way possible.  It was a centre created by women for women,  we had Caryn Franklin as our Patron and a strong community who just wanted to provide a more Holistic approach to health.   I was able to know the significance of International Women's Day because we had to fund raise to keep the center going international women's day was a great time to highlight this cause.  International Women’s day also serves as another way of building communities through its events created around the world.   This is the month or day I give service to women either through a women's workshop or an online offering and it is something that I have done every year for the past 15 years.    International Women's Day has empowered me and helped me connect with a number of amazing women so much that I curated two online exhibitions in a collaboration of over 10 Artists/Healers from around the world. Womb stories A Virtual exhibition 2013  online exhibition; 

Womb stores 2013 Artists and Healers

                                     Womb stories 2015 online exhibition

womb stories 2015

This month I will be reaching another key 'rites de passage' through my exhibition Legacy which showcases my artwork.  A Labor of love; Legacy is the influence or my work with women across the social, economic and racial spectrum and as an acknowledgement of the power of women coming together to heal and build and not tear each other down.

Marilyn x

On Love and Oneness – what we can learn from Maurice White

Maurice White the leader of Earth, Wind and Fire was an important part of my childhood.  

I imagine that Earth, Wind and Fire was also a key influence for many people around the world in the 1970’s and beyond.   His music conveyed on message Love, Happiness, Oneness and even Joy. Words such as Immense, Magical, Godlike and Genius are used to describe an incredible talent who created a body of work that is so vast and timeless it transcends generations from Family parties to Advertisements there is a memory connected to an Earth Wind and Fire song or production this is sovereign living.

Last month I wrote about the incredible sovereign being that was David Bowie and his contribution to the music industry and now I amwriting about one of the Ultimate Pioneers that dominated Soul music.   Our inheritance from our musical heroes are the music they left behind,  and now we have aworking blue print of excellence that we can draw upon to carve our own genius in the sand or on the hearts of others with our work regardless of the scale.

On Showing Up For Yourself

As I watch the News of David Bowie’s passing I am in awe of a man who lived his life as a total example of creativity an example of creative expression at its best, at its fullest, and operating in the dimension of a complete cycle.   He has always been instrumental to my life in terms of Art and Fashion like a silent influence that made me look at colour and form when I was designing clothes during my time as a fashion student back in the 80’s.  David Bowie demonstrated 'creativity without too much compromise' to the end.

The cycle or ‘Sovereign’ living has been denied too many who passed way before their time leaving a big gap in the hearts of those that loved or were inspired by them. 

There are less well known people who have followed a similar path but we just do not hear about them, and now we will find many creative souls of the past leaving a vessel that needs to be filled. We need pure uncompromising expression that is raw and authentic to replace our icons in a new way.  Now is tomorrow and we need to stop the ideology that we have to be rewarded with Millions for our craft we just need to balance our world with those that are living not just existing.  What legacy do you want to leave in this world and how can your craft be of use to your own life right now?

If you need finances, then find a full proof way to make money if that is priority and work on your craft alongside this. Show up for yourself with your unique talent(s) or gifts.

Steps to start the process of showing up for yourself;

List down 5 things that you are not doing for yourself; for example, are you Exercising, Meditating, writing your blog, Creating etc.

1        Accept and Acknowledge that you are not showing up for yourself and sharing your gifts, and that you are not where you need to be.

2        Commit to doing at least one item on your list right now (just do the one thing).

3        Pamper yourself for example book a massage, facial or get your hair done it is important to do something for yourself as much as you can afford.  A scented bath does not count it can be added but you have to pay for somebody to pamper you.  Treating yourself is a great way to inform the universe that you care for yourself.

4        Give – Giving to others at this time is also crucial because you will receive far more than you have. Do not give to receive just give because others need it.  (warning rescuers and over givers do not give without doing Step 4 otherwise this is sacrifice).

5        Use the Full and New Moon for activating your goal, the new Moon is for visioning and manifesting and the Full Moon is for letting go and checking in.  Our full moon monthly circle works with this very energy. You can do a vision board or wish list to help you with your goal.

The aim of change is not make you work harder but smarter (Discipline) will be needed to shift a pattern of a life time or years.  As I spoke in the Creative Healing Playbook everybody needs a team it is just identifying who can want can help us move towards our goal. 

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Defining your Soul Work

It is mind week on our #3030wellness programme  and during this time I experienced my own apathy, inertia, or stuckness. I realize that I was feeling ‘the void’ a term often used in relation to ‘the Writers/Creative’ block.
The void can represent the time Betwixt two different worlds; for example, change of vocation, circumstance or a set of behaviors (your thoughts create your reality right?). It is the place of uncertainty, the place of maybe, the place where we have to exercise trust and faith.

The void feels like a never ending sea of paralysis even despair, because it feels (to me) that the motor cannot start or get moving. So I waited for the right time I actually went with it as advised by my creative muse, I sat in the void (in fear, though) but I sat there until the time was right.
Then after a time of completing my own NLP exercise for behaviour change I came across an exercise by Steve Pavlina how-to-discover-your-life-purpose-in-about-20-minutes

Now my community (family, clients and students alike) knows that I am AWARE of my purpose; However, as of late, I have been questioning my current purpose in a big way because of the void and my osteopath’s recommending that something big is coming up after a tumultuous three years.  So after doing this exercise I realized that the main crux. and the joy of my work is bringing groups or people together, namely COMMUNITY which is my gift (for now anyway).

My desire to bring people together in groups, namely the young, the restless, the children, the adults etc, defines me as a CONNECTOR according to MALCOLM GLADWELL.  I connect people to their sexuality, creativity, juice, missing parts, inner child, vixen, inner guru etc. 

I have also identified that the medium I use in connecting people is irreverent because I have had many vocations and they all have been successful when I have been able to connect people I have an annual Winter Solstice gathering for my clients and there is so much happening, also the joy of the Moon circle and the 30/30 wellness program is the community. After my realization I have been exposed to a lot of community events that have reaffirmed my purpose and nourished my soul the aha moment has been priceless to me. I believe there is a time to really come out of the void and no matter how we push, it will not happen before the time is right.

When you give yourself time to reflect and regroup you will attract the correct experiences and opportunities to you. So I invite you to do this exercise for yourself and please let me know how you get on.

Marilyn

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