Donate to the Healing and learning of Black Women/Woc

As we are witnessing currently in light of the Black Lives Matter issues and the current pandemic. Black people are often marginalized in society most areas listed by Maslow’s hierarchy of needs such as illness, poverty, racism and mental health significantly,   

In response to the Governments paper Beyond the data: Understanding the impact of COVID-19 on BAME groups here it is stated that  “ the highest age-standardised diagnosis rates of COVID-19 per 100,000 population were in people of Black ethnic groups (486 in females and 649 in males) and the lowest were in people of White ethnic groups”  These figures along with side systemic racism and police brutality will have an even more detrimental impact our mental health for months and years to come and as there financially there are often limited funds available for a lot of women who fit this category I have decided to set up a fund for those who can support and create opportunities for members of these groups. 

This page is set up to assist Black Women/WOC to access my workshops, Circle training and sessions via a sponsor. system.

Corporate Sponsors are welcome and each sponsor will be listed on our page

The suggested Donations are: 

A Sponsored space on the Creative Healing Facilitators course Level 1 £250

A Sponsored space on the Creative Healing Facilitator course Level 2 £750

A Coaching package £320 for four sessions. 

A creative healing membership for a WOC for 6 months £90

A community healing session £40

A Cacao Workshop £22

Your contribution of any kind is welcome and you will also receive confirmation of the order and a list of graduates or clients that you have helped during this time. 

MARILYN 

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About mjfontaine

Marilyn has a passion for art and holistic health. She has over 15 years of experience working with women who are change-makers of society and raising awareness on the benefits of personal development. Her work and the processes that she embraces are heavily influenced by the rituals and practices of indigenous cultures and the connection of healing to storytelling and nature, which she incorporates into her artwork, online courses, workshops, and women's circles

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Free Webinar- How to create a sense of meaning and connection for yourself and your family during this global crisis.

Here is the PDF of the presentation from Jifunza

Here is the PDF presentation from Marilyn

Self Care resources mentioned in during the call.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=82ShSNuru6c Bruce Lipton

https://www.instagram.com/seamosshealthylife/ Seamoss

https://www.instagram.com/corinnedroberts/ Masks

https://www.instagram.com/cockandbullmenswear/ Cock and bull menswear

https://www.instagram.com/exhibit.wholeness/ Exhibit wholeness

https://www.instagram.com/hovhouseofvitality/ House of Vitality

https://www.instagram.com/stories/igr_love/ Island Girls Rock

Growing workshop with Go grow mjfontaine click here

Enema Kit click here (affiliate link)

Herbs for women video mjfontaine 2013

Please feel free to share this video or page.

Self-isolation resources.

Now that we are in a state of National Quarantine I have come across a few speciality delivery companies that are black-owned. This is great because of the price hike of buying the Caribbean food in this current climate is awful and exploitive. I always buy from my local Farmers market and mostly organic but all the companies are no longer delivering due to the huge surge. It is a good job I started to plant my own veg, (although I cannot grow Plantain and green banana so there are limits). So my weekend shop consisted of ordering Seamoss and a medium Veg and Fruit basket from the above companies.

Follow me on Instagram for full update of the produce next week x

Online Food /Lifestyle delivery companies

https://www.instagram.com/seamosshealthylife/ - Sea Moss

https://www.windrushbay.com/collections/tropical-fruit-and-vegetables/products/large-tropical-fruit-and-veg-box?variant=31734667837521 Fruit and vegetables from the Caribbean

Health resources

7 Day detox download click here

My Insight Timer meditation click here

Yoga glow free meditation click here

Nourishing your soul - Abhyanga,

A few years ago I undertook an Autumn/Fall cleanse with Yoga Journal which gently eased me into a more self affirming space. The Autumn/Fall season is a time to support the Liver and to help us let go of that which is not needed. The main practice of the Ayurvedic cleanse was the practice of Abhyanga, Abhyanga is an Ayurvedic massage that is used with warm herb-infused oils to suit to each Dosha, Once can book an Ayurvedic practitioner or perform a daily self massage.

Tumeric tea and herb infused oil with sunflower and coconut oil.

This practice is so grounding especially during the darker months and is a great self care tool.

This video by www.banyanbotanicals.com is a great Abhyange demonstration, the company also does a selection of oils to suit each Dosha.

Holistic Book club review - White Eagle Medicine wheel cards.

White Eagle Medicine Wheel: Native American wisdom as a way of life by Eliana Harvey (Author), Wa-Na-Nee-Che published by Eddison Books ltd

So July happened, which delayed this post because of my busy schedule which was for me very positive however it delayed the next instalment of our Holistic Book club review.

Anyway, this review is so worth it.

So I was sent this amazing pack of the White Eagle Medicine wheel Native American wisdom as a way of life by Eliana Harvey and Wa-Na-Nee-Che.

"The White Eagle Medicine Wheel Deck" gives a unique introduction to the sacred teachings of Native Americans. This powerful deck of cards is a resource for problem-solving on all fronts, whether at home, at work or in relationships. And with the accompanying booklet, you will be taught how to communicate with the animals and other sacred archetypes who will show you their medicine ways. Discover your inner self and learn how to live in harmony, not only with yourself but with all living things around you. You will never look back.

About the author

Eliana Harvey is a therapist and writer with a deep interest in Native American culture and tradition. She is the founder of Shamanka, a unique school of women's shamanism, and has been involved in the spiritual path since 1960. Visit her website at shamanka.com Wa-Na-Nee-Che descends from a long line of medicine men and shamans. He is one of the few remaining Native Americans willing to share the original wisdom of the old way of life and offers sacred teachings appropriate to the western world in seminars and workshops.

The Cards and booklet

image Eddison Books ltd

As a lover of First nation spiritual systems, I had an instant connection with the cards, so the cards would a great choice for my moon circle and the Creative Healing facilitator course.

The cards share the wisdom and practices of the Lakota Sioux Native American tradition the deck has three parts for study.

The apprentice

The Student

The Elder

The first level is the apprentice and this has 28 animal cards.

Eagle, Bear, Badger, Beaver, Spider, Butterfly, Horse, Buffalo, Ant, Otter, Rabbit, Snake, Porcupine, Cougar, Dragonfly, Dog, Dolphin, Turtle, Elk, Whale, Moose, Fox, Coyote, Lynx, Raven, Hummingbird, Owl, Hawk

The next level is the student and has fourteen grandfather and grandmother cards. Pipe Carrier, Dreamweaver, Sundancer, Medicine Man, Spirit Warrior, Provider, Record KeeperWeaver, Birther, Medicine Woman, Stargazer, Wisdom Keeper, Rainbow Dancer, Story Teller

The final level is the Elder level that has the following cards:

Sweat Lodge, Drum, Medicine Wheel, Totem Pole

The cards have a background story plus meanings with reversal images the relation to spirit, the functional spiritual items and the animals make these cards well rounded and creates a dialogue between circle members as well as an education into one of the oldest spiritual systems in the world.

Using the apprentice cards for Level 1 of the Creative healing course was a great addition to opening up the circle. At first, the cards appeared to challenge the participants because the type of animals listed were not commonly seen as spiritual guides or totem animals, so learning the understanding and challenges around the types of animals such as ant, snake etc in a spiritual context was eye-opening.

For the second Level, the Student the cards were held more understanding in terms of intergenerational healing, the circle members were able to use the meaning of the cards in a more personal way.

Next week we will work with the Elder level cards to help us through Level 2 so I will let you know who we found them.

If you want a universal system to work with or are running a circle I would recommend purchasing this pack as you will not be disappointed.

Highly recommended. Click here to Buy.

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Creative Healing Facilitator review

Creative Healing Facilitators Certificate Level 1 weekend.

A brilliant Sunny weekend was had, during the Creative Healing Facilitators Certificate Level 1 .

Participants covered their own gifts and understanding of why they incarnated on this planet to run groups of people in a creative circle format.

It was a joyful weekend because I was able to review the principals and practices that underpin my work.

Areas we covered were:

• Human design an introduction,

• Group dynamics,

• Instructive and Deductive learning,

• The medicine wheel and Sacred space,

• Participants even went home with their own Gem essence and a lot of reading work,

Here is a recap on the Weekend from participant Helen

“Still buzzing from completing Creative Healing Facilitators Course - Level 1, with@mjfontaineover the bank holiday weekend! 📚
Yes! The alter in the garden was our classroom in the Sunday sunshine 🌻
While the content was very informative, mostly I loved growing in awareness of who I am and what my strengths (and challenges) are that will help me facilitate authentically, in the course 😊”

To join the next Level 1 Creative Healing Facilitators course in July please go here

Holistic Book Club - Essential oils, pain relief and a great waistline.

7 minute read. .

I was recently sent three books by Eddison Books on Health and Wellbeing. Now I am a bit of s sceptic because as a Holistic therapist and Former College tutor the books we read were quite detailed clinical type books. Suffice to say it was nearly 20 years ago so I suspect the sophistication of the reader has risen to meet our upgraded HD retinas.

Essential Oils You Can’t Do Without: The Best Aromatherapy Oils for Health, Home and Beauty and How to Use Them by Daniele Festy

The Ketogenic & Hypotoxic Diet: Lose Weight and Improve Health with This Low-Carb, High-Fat, Anti-Inflammatory Plan by Olivia Charlet

Natural Painkillers: Relieve Pain with Natural Remedies and Exercises by Dr Yann Rougier & Marie Borrel

Natural Painkillers: Relieve Pain with Natural Remedies and Exercises by Dr Yann Rougier & Marie Borrelcan came at the right time because I recently experienced a bad back after another Bereavement (if you have listened to my podcast or read my blog on Grief  then you will know how common it is to experience physical ailments after the death of a loved one). The book is jam-packed with various complementary techniques to use such as Acupressure points to help with pain relief,  Healthy foods to help reduce inflammation and also a good range of Homeopathic and Aromatherapy remedies and recipes to assist you with any complementary programme.

Safety note: For any physical ailment one should always consult their GP or Complementary Health Practitioner ( I consulted my Osteopath for my back).
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Essential Oils You Can’t Do Without: The Best Aromatherapy Oils for Health, Home and Beauty and How to Use Them by Daniele Festy

When I was asked to review this book I thought it would be just another aromatherapy book with great pics, but I was wrong, it is a great book and great as a reference guide.   This easy to use book is full of information that will help you create some great skincare and wellness blends. 6 Essential Oils You Can't Do Without has great references on all the important data that will allow you to start your essential oil journey. Even for existing Aromatherapists and students alike, this book visually clean and informative, for the novice, it will also be a great companion to creating a Healing home because it has over 300 recipes for the home, skin and body. So for my clients and students alike, I will definitely recommend this lovely book.

The Ketogenic & Hypotoxic Diet: Lose Weight and Improve Health with This Low-Carb, High-Fat, Anti-Inflammatory Plan by Olivia Charlet

I found this book really interesting and again timely because I have spent the winter hibernating and now I am back at the Gym and on the mat.   The Ketogenic & Hypo toxic Diet again was a very informative read. The book breaks down the “Keto” diet which is a diet

Low in carbohydrates and rich in good fats, the ketogenic diet offers the perfect solution to healthy eating for optimum well-being. But in order to be truly beneficial to our health, it should also be hypotoxic (gluten- and dairy-free, with only moderate amounts of organic animal protein). 

The Keto diet says No, to sugar, most fruits or white carbs and Pulses so some Vegans may find this a problem if they eat a lot of cooked Chickpeas or Lentils,(there are options for the sprouted pulses)

As a gluten intolerant Pescatarian  I find pulses hard to digest, even with Seaweed added and soaking,  and the Gluten-free food often leaves me bloated so trying this out has helped reduce the bloating.

The book is clearly written and easy to follow, but for me, my favourite part of the book is the recipes.   Although different I found some of the foods choices similar to the Paleo diet, however, the Keto is about changing macronutrients to start a natural fat burning process. (correct me if I am wrong) and the Paleo is about eliminating dairy, grains and processed foods. Both diets are good for Auto Immune, Weight loss and Gluten intolerance. As for the weight loss, I am only on day 1 so I will let you know if I follow this for 5 days.  I will definitely add this book to the reading list of my self paced course the 30/30 Wellness programme.and now that is a bonus. All books are available for all outlets such as Amazon and Foyles.

How to create a healing home

My home was a rainbow house when I first moved in because I was working on all Chakras simultaneously.

As I dug deeper into self-actualisation, my home became more neutral and the canvas became my healing landscape. I really believe that your home reflects your ‘ Human’ condition at it’s level of evolution.  What do you mean Marilyn?

Well, your home reflects your mental and emotional situation..

We have all seen the TV series Horders and also the new show by Marie Kondo reiterates this point change your home through clearing clutter then you change your life. Changing your decor, colour, or adding an accent wall or cushions can transform any space.so, also the use of candles, incense and crystals can make a home feel calm and tranquil . I have listed 5 tools you can use consciously to change your environment to support yourself.

1 . Space clearing / Clutter Clearing

Self explanatory, but clearing old clothes, magazines or books creates space for new things to come into your life. Holding onto outdated clothes or shoes can create a sense of heaviness. Check out Marie Kondo’s show on Youtube or Netflix.

2. Air Purifiers

Fresh air by opening our windows, by opening our windows we are letting go of the energy we processed the day or night before. Fresh air creates more fluidity in your home this is really important if you are suffering from Depression and anxiety.

Air purifiers are also great for allergy sufferers, damp environments as well as dust mites in rooms

Other natural purifiers
Sage. Palo Santo or Sweetgrass - Ok I am not rewriting the wheel as this is very basic, but Sage is good to use very quickly to purify a space, and these scents are very good for clearing the atmosphere.

Essential Oils - Lavender /  Frankincense / Juniper - Does what Sage et al does

Rose/ Ylang Ylang/ Jasmine - To create that mood for romance or self-love.

Lemongrass / Peppermint- To stimulate that mind for study, conversation or concentration.

3. Artwork

Purchase artwork from independent artists or create your own check out Pinterest or join my list for my creative workshops. you can see past events here .

Artwork that reflects the things your love or the mood you want to capture is an affirmation of who you are, so choosing artwork will create an atmosphere of calm or positivity.

4. An altar

Please check my post on Altars creating a space for you to meditate, honour your family or ancestor.

An altar is like a portal between you and spirit and all your wishes can be placed on your altar. You can have one in every room.

5. Natural Products
Limiting the use of plastic in your home reduces environmental waste and is also more beneficial for your health as plastic can leech harmful chemicals . Wooden bowls, paper straws and china cups also add to the clean healing element to your home. Save old jars and bottles for storage and to hold fruit juices and smoothies.

Try to have more natural fibres where possible and replace synthetic items with more natural materials slowly as this can be expensive to do at once. I am slowly replacing some of my soft furnishings with more natural products where possible.

For cleaning try using essential oils, vinegar and soda crystals to have a cost effective cleaning product (please check my future posts on Natural cleaning products).

Want to change your life then take my Free Creative Healing Life coaching course.

Let me know what you do to create your healing home.

Buy Art Cushions and artwork

Recommended book by Marie condo

Air Purifier

INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY 2019

Happy International Women’s day !!!

For more information about this day click here on the International Women’s Day website. I will also have an exhibition in Forest Gate East London

As an appreciation for all the women who work hard I want you to Tag a Beautiful women or business here..

Healing family patterns Part 2

My favourite film at the moment is  Nappily Ever After where the lead character was living a life based upon her mother’s expectations of how to look in the corporate world, which consisted of very straightened hair and a token spouse.  Eventually, the lead character breaks away from her familial constraints and work pressures to find the love she deserves and with the hair style she wants ie a Bald head (god forbid).   Is the problem of not being or looking good enough for your family or parents fiction?  No, this happens more often than not (especially in the black community). Family demands and expectation rule our lives consciously or unconsciously and are one of the main reasons many of us are suffering from Mental health conditions more than ever before.

The problem or ‘hold’ of family patterns is that they are entrenched deeply in guilt, and we may be conscious or unconscious of this.  Many of the places where we are challenged as human beings are around the relationships that have affected our childhood.

From a young age many of were and are Empaths, however within our families we were often seen as too sensitive, we cannot blame our families for this title because they were either too busy and untrained in emotional literacy to even consider another person's needs and understand the condition of being an empath.

This does not help us though, does it?

The impact of our parent’s childhood is also embedded in our consciousness and we are still trying to work through that many years later.

Our mothers did not have time to journal, reflect and read a book that would give them insight into their suppressed rage, instead they had to shut up and keep the family together because “women did not speak their mind” In the meantime, the sensitive children internalises the rage and bitterness and anger, and cue the conditions that reflect no sweetness in life or heatbreak such as High blood pressure and Diabetes.

Reflection mjfontaine 2018

We deserve better but not to be bitter, we deserve healing, we also deserve boundaries to protect ourselves.

We have to do the work to heal the family patterns that are affecting your life, that is attracting Narcissists and abusive relationships or any kind be the peaceful and brave warrior you were chosen to heal this dynamic for a reason.

How to start Healing.

Start Therapy

Despite the stigma in the black community around mental health, deep rooted family issues cannot be resolved through reading books or social media alone so this is at the top of the healing tree. One needs to enlist a trained profession to help untangle the complex family patterns, beliefs and behaviours that are present in our lives.

Other tools to help you research the type of support you need.

• Read a book about Toxic families such as Dr Christiane Northrup’s book Dodging Energy Vampires and Family Matters by Robin Skynner

• Listen to a Podcast - You can look up keywords on Itunes such as Family systems or Family therapy.

• Reiki healing with distance symbols

• Jade Egg / Yoni egg exercises to help heal any sexuality issues (best worked in conjunction with any other Therapy).

Want to know more ? Sign up here to receive emails regarding Healing Family patterns for updates on my work and to get my free reading list pdf of family healing books.

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5 Tools that levelled up my business and increased my income in 2019

After my last blog reviewing 2018 and increasing my income, rates and clients I was asked by many how I do it.  Let us go back to 2013/14 I was running several online programmes and working for an organisation, but I got burnt out because I was spending too much time spreading myself thinly.  Even though my 30/30 wellness programme and moon circles were running great but I was tired because I had to constantly check in. Sending and organising invoices were ok but it was done manually which took time, using a spreadsheet.

Anyway, for my various projects I was writing stuff down but again I could not get a filling system together so again I was doing my admin by piecemeal and I was becoming very anxious and agitated because I needed to be more professional.   Until I saw a video by Nesha Woolery called 5 Automated products, click here.  Now I was already using Acuity for my scheduling but it was very sporadic and I had flirted with Asana last year when I had an assistant, however, I deleted the information because I could not use it properly and I was too ‘busy’ to learn the programme.

Automating my invoices, accounts, clients and art projects has been a godsend, now I use Asana for all projects including my home improvements. Receiving money from suppliers has been flawless using the Wave accounting system.  

Acuity is just the bomb and my clients love it too.  I even schedule meetings via this programme and there is no back and forth between myself and the client.

Using these  3 automated tools have cut down my time by 40 per cent, which enables me to operate on a more professional level.  

The other tools I love in my business is Paypal I use the integration and report software to see my business stats and monitor my performance and so I can plan ahead for the next month.

Another good tool is listening to Podcasts, now I used to just listen to music or fun shows on Spotify however since reactivating my iTunes I tend to listen to business podcasts that give support and put me in the productive mode.

I hope that this information helps you so please let me know the tools you use.

If you want to move your business to the next level schedule a session with me Creative healing one-hour session.

Mindful Menopause/Wild Women

LIsten to podcast

I am seeing a lot of women who are walking around hot sweatly, thinning hair, tired and at their wit's end.  This is the role of the Menopause.

The situation though is that this could be one of the most creative times of a woman’s life but many women are experiencing severe discomfort with the Menopause. I wonder if the level of discomfort during the change has to do with many women trying to function in this very Patriarchal and aggressive western world. Being Peri menopausal I only have symptoms when I am doubting myself or processing a pattern or belief that is familial, and my symptoms come up in the form of heat disappear within in a minute . Fuzzy thinking does happen to me at times, but only comes when I am feeling stressed (which is infrequent because I have a no-nonsense attitude in my life to bullshit and ‘settling‘ in challenging relationships, jobs and friendships). 

So the best option for anybody during this time is to chill out, be present, and stop running on the treadmill because this is a time of rebirth, you are now setting a new path for yourself. This is the time the Body Computer is opening up to becoming Sovereign. (another post on that later) 

Your body is becoming rich with wisdom, and authenticity, but patriarchy states that you are an angry woman on the edge (I believe that is the view of Western / White Male’s patriarchal belief system that wants women to be subservient and well behaved, whilst they desire the women who is full of passion and fire).  Menopause is a time for women to own and understand they have the answers and access to complimentary methods that does work.

How to navigate the next stage of your life during the Menopause.

I have included a few points to help you on your journey, do not forget to subscribe to my email here so that I can send you the Womb Wisdom free PDF with some more resources on this subject.

• Be wild, be raw, be truthful, but honour your spirit , and listen to the Triple Goddess ( Intuition) Live as a fully powerful woman in control and acceptance of all her moods.

• As I type this powerful download I feel my ovaries stirring after a dormant time.  Never in my life have I feel so activated whilst writing. Our body responds to our internal dialogue and external environment so that we can navigate our life accordingly.

• Love yourself even through your bad days, because your emotions it will work with you in the best way possible.

• Take that class, change your jobs (yes) and reconsider those toxic relationships.

• Read up on menopause one place to start is Dr Christian Northrup’s book The Wisdom of Menopause.  There is also a great interview with her and Dr Kelly Brogan MD   click here

And Finally….

Work with me, your Spiritual Doula.

I want to invite you to work with me during this powerful time of transition and insight. My Creative Healing Method programme will create a full blueprint for you at this next stage of your life. Consider this a reinvention of your life.

Healing and Herbs.

Healing sessions for women.

I am now working alongside a herbalist for a limited time for my Womb Healing, and Coaching sessions. 

I was asked by Herbalist Sophia to sit in my sessions so that she could observe the practice of an established therapist.   I jumped at the chance of working with a Herbalist because of my own love of herbs and secondly, the effect herbs have on the body especially the Uterus and general health of women.  I also feel the energy of two therapists will enhance the healing within a much quicker timeline.

Healing the womb is a revolutionary act.

Taking time for womb healing automatically makes one feel whole again and able to deal with the stresses of life. 

My Womb healing sessions will enable you to have more control over any Gynaecological conditions you are currently experiencing. I cannot create miracles (well according to my clients I can), but I can get you to feel, sleep and think better about your health and your body.

The Creative Healing Method Coaching programme  
will help you heal from that breakup or give you the confidence to set up that business or connect to your intuition?  This programme will bring more clarity and help you set good boundaries which is always weaker when we are experiencing womb issues.  
(basically, it is going from 1 to 20 in a short space of time). 

Don't take my word for it here are some examples.

R wanted to travel, feel more connected within her self after nine months of the creative healing method she travelled to an exotic location and is now more in her power.

J, wanted more connection and confidence, more boundaries and within six months she felt much clearer and secure in her emotions.  After a year working with me, J was able to set boundaries within several relationships and establish a self-care plan for herself that managed her anxiety levels. 

B had a chronic womb issue which has improved within three months.     
Lastly, T was feeling very isolated and within 6 months she had a job, her own space and is in the process of expanding her life's work and offer.

If any of this speaks to you then book a discovery call with me.

Marilyn x 

2018 End of year questions.

2018 in Review

All I can say about 2018 is that you Kicked my arse I totally jumped off the cliff to support myself a 100 percent

My spa dates were cancelled, my clothes were recycled and I did not purchase any new shoes in 2019 which meant I consumed very little and my cash went back into my marketing and business.

After my Dad passed over in 2017 and my brother in law six months earlier, I focused on working and making money for others. As soon as 2018 hit I entered a new relationship - with myself.

From the beginning of 2018 I vowed to concentrate on myself (so no love interest with Musicians, Artist, or Poets (apparently according to Liz Green I am the proverbial troubadour so I needed to experience my lament and love by myself and for myself),

It is so interesting in cyber world we talk about ‘Self Love’ but, self Love like any relationship takes work as there is still compromises, and decisions to be made so that one can balance work and life.

In relationships there was a struggle to balance time between my partner and friends, in relationship to self this is still a challenge. I was totally immersed in myself and the joy I felt being in this zone of pure bliss. I now understand how I love because I gave myself that total unconditional love, so now moving forward I need to cater to three groups of humans, myself, my partner and my circle.

During this time I was also aware of the difference between hiding/withdrawing from the world and loving myself, eating, going out dinning and walking for oneself and with oneself, I was running towards my self love not away from the world.

Surrender : mjfontaine

I went to events and concerts, walked, ate in restaurants, all by my self (cue the music) and at times I felt a slight pang but that was my head and conditioning, my heart was fun and having fun.

I never knew this type of bliss existed. - communion with the Creator my creativity flourished also.

My work became deeper and thick with authenticity and transparency. I re discovered places in my business that I neglected and threw money at so I could not deal with those areas. The reduction of funds also made me realise how much I used money as a way to put a band aid on issues that challenged my self worth and confidence, This clarity of my life situation enabled me to look at my business, my boundaries and my worth. How many times do we make a business decision based upon validation? It is surprising how Social media totally dictates how entrepreneurs actually portray themselves online at the cost to their business model.

Since walking my own path and setting a better strategy I got real and practical, learned, applied the steps but checked with my heart to see if the steps were congruent with my values. Where there was confusion I asked the adult part of myself to apply a practical solutions.

Stuff just go more real and I am actually running a proper business MA!

My clients increased, more sales of my products and more engagement,

There are more surprises coming in 2019 which is totally gonna switch up my work.

First I had to check in with my partner - Myself.

Have a great 2019 please see my next post that will have the review questions of 2018

Marilyn x

Solstice Planning for 2019

Happy Solstice

Here is a video and special Oracle card reading for you for 2019 now I am not an Psychic reader but just an intuitive reader who loves the unexpected.

Leave a comment below to let me know if this resonates with you.

CARD TIME STAMP

Card No 1 07.54

Card No 2 10.11

Card No 3 12.43

The Tao of the Dark Tunnel

The Tao of the dark tunnel

I can be pretty adventurous and other times I can be a deer in headlights (this is rare for me as I am a Leo) but when this dastardly affliction hits me it can have a great impact on my life!

Think embarrassing ex-boyfriends, bad jobs, impulse buying "the offer ends at midnight” all very time consuming and sometimes painful... I say it's better to make mistakes than have regrets because mistakes are better when they come from desire not fear. (Disclaimer this does not include infidelity or other untoward desires there is no wisdom in the mistake of breaking hearts or addiction)

However there is nothing more paralyzing than fear of a possible outcome such as losing a contract, or making the right decision regarding ones career or running out of petrol whilst one is in the Blackwell tunnel!

The Blackwell tunnel

The Blackwell tunnel is 4,125 feet long.

I have a new car so I didn't really know the the amount of petrol one has in a reserve tank!

The scene

I am driving south of the river and all of a sudden, I am in the tunnel and the petrol light comes on. I am horrified I never go into a tunnel without petrol because well it's dangerous and irresponsible, and I am also very claustrophobic in tunnels!!!

Anyway the day before I was asking a client about her fear and how it affects our choices. So to make an example of myself (I like to practice what I preach). I decided to test the emotional responses to fear

So as the panic and negative self-talk set in I decided to ask myself

What part of me is fearful, where is it located?

What is the wise intuitive part of me saying and what is it saying? Where is it located in my body?

believe me everything slows down especially if your practising deep breathing to calm yourself down

After practising the questions and dialogue the journey through the tunnel was the quickest journey I ever had....

For the key was slowing down and stepping away from the panic or fear by breathing (which we forget to do) also self-talk is a really good way of staying calm. The aim is to talk to yourself like you would talk to a dear friend. This is a good way of calming yourself down so don't beat up or hate on yourself doesn’t help the situation at all.

In my early twenties I suffered from panic attacks and during that time all rationality went out of the window however, a tool I used to get out of the panic state was to give myself positive and reassuring talks rather than run around and create more drama. There are times where the batons of support during fearful times have to be passed to my circle of care/friends/gypsy crew (that’s why it’s important to have good people around you).

The lesson of this journey is balance and being still in a crisis if you cannot do that find a way to get there as soon as you can.

What do you do to remain centred?

Podcast rebranding- The Candid Conversations show Episode 17 Shame.

The is the first episode of our Rebranded show now called The Candid Conversations show. 

Today I discuss Shame and Vulnerability and how it affects our daily lives, relationships, jobs and mental health.

Trigger warning ! This episode may bring up old feelings so I have included links that you visit and use for support.

Music by Rebbz

This episode is sponsered by Willique -Exceptional quality handbags available 

https://www.talkspace.com/

https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame?language=en 

Anodea Judith - Chakras and Shame  https://www.mixcloud.com/alignpodcast/anodea-judith-eastern-body-western-mind-chakra-system-ep-137/

Biodynamic Massage 

Alexander Lowen exercises. 

On intuition

Sometimes I feel like I am fighting my self

My intuition is something that I live by every day and its getting stronger and stronger which is resulting in a battle with me … Its like emu in the it challenges me stretches me and I feel like I am Rod hull trying to straighten what need to be ruffled and what is not for me.

Scenario one

Job proposal ..more work (it’s a recession) Iit is a Bread n Butter job ( you know the ones we do sometimes for pay the bills) but this time my body was scream it had enough of charging the for such services rendered and wanted to make a more clean living… but my FEAR was getting to me . It’s a recession, there won’t be any more work. Those of you who know my philosophy know that I do not really listen to the news or read news paper (well I don’t buy them but I do tend to read the headlines in supermarkets) anyway my ethos has always been follow your true calling no matter what because you always come through with a little faith. The same faith I seemed to be missing until old inner voice became loud and clear

the message in my gut or solar plexus was NO this isn’t for you …

just like this speaker in my head… Damn

I had to refuse the job I actually felt like I was doing a funny dance like I was two people one leg moving forward to say YES! I will do the job and the other step in back in defiance and shouting ‘enough is enough’ so I looked a picture … I declined the job, and that same afternoon a job offer double the amount came … but you guessed it again is not the job I need to do right now so I keep going until it feels right.(and you guessed it the jobs keep coming).

Now this may seem a little irresponsible but when I chart back my history and the great things I have accomplished have been through tapping into my intuition. Thus the best and most profitable decisions have been listening to my inner guidance. It has never been wrong (when I step out of the way) . However this decision isn’t always easy its actually gives me a headache and it requires 100% responsibility, accountability and some assertiveness (its hard to fight your corner when you have hungry children and a spouse starting at you so your decisions may take a lot of courage and a great deal of common sense. For example is it fear or is it your intuition when you practice history (of starving or feasting ) will let you know if you are dealing with an emotion or true guidance.

So how do we learn to tap into our intuition? by acting on small things before you make decisions for bigger choices. Again knowing the area that rocks you..ie solar plexus or the heart (the area most commonly associated with inner guidance) . Bodywork such as abdominal massage, yoga or energetic exercises, help dissipate anxiety in that area, but the best tool is Meditation that will slow your mind and give you space to listen to your inner voice. I recommend you buy (trust your vibes insert book) or my mp3 podcast of meeting your guide and intuition.

Whatever you do know that it is an interesting and sometimes uncomfortable but highly rewarding journey rock the boat .

Namaste